Living with anxiety: coping with worry and sensitivity

Another mental health related post is here! I just love writing about my feeling and how to deal with everything going on in my life. You know I suffer from severe anxiety over two year and it isn’t getting any better. I wanted to let you know how we, anxious and sensitive people feel and deal with it.

Dealing with anxiety seems like just breathing a bit and taking a walk until it goes away but I can tell you, it’s one hell of a worry. Living with anxiety means you can’t really go out of the house feeling relaxed and happy. I rarely smile. Only a few people in this world make me relaxed when I’m with them. Leaving my house for a sleepover is a nightmare full of thought and “what if’s”.

The other day I was in a gym de-stressing a bit when it hit me. I had a huge anxiety attack after just 30 minutes of workout. I felt my chest is closing up, I couldn’t breathe properly and I got sick within minutes. I ran and closed myself into the toilet for a half an hour before I could grab my stuff in ran away from there.

Worrying about everything is just a part of our day. Worrying about what are you going to eat so you won’t be sick, about how much you can do around the house so you won’t puke and how to argue without not feeling exhausted and sick after it is just an everyday struggle. I can’t recall when I last had a peaceful mind.

Crying for almost everything and every time for us is just like you smiling at someone in the store or having fun at work. This is our work. Worry, pain, suffering. My stomach is upset almost all of the time, I even take medications for it, but because my brain is working 24/7, medications rarely help.

Deal with it, they say.

Like it was that easy. I read tons of books, going to therapy and taking my meds and I’m still not feeling my best. It isn’t easy. Probably the major step is to accept that you are living with anxiety, it’s a part of you. And also the major part is that everyone around you accepts the “new” you, because well, you are not the same anymore. Buy some mindfulness books, try adult colouring (didn’t work for me), open a blog or write a diary.

It’s a disease. You will get better, eventually. Until than, people need to be supportive, not judging you for not being present at events and drinks with them. Take all the time you need. It’s bad, it gets worse, but if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.

Let me know down in the comment how are you dealing with anxiety, worry and sensibility. Would love to chat with you.

Love, M.

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  • I’ve been finding that when I’m writing about my experiences it just feels that much better. Like I’m finally expelling things off my chest.

    For me I’ve been working on documenting when I’m becoming anxious – is it after certain times, having enough sleep – or is my eating habits effecting it? (Coffee is a big one and I’m trying to go towards less caffeine.) Perhaps that may work for you? I get the frustrated part and the disabling ability that it brings because you find you can’t enjoy yourself…

    Lately, I’ve been taking to meditating – any attempt to just simply calm my mind has been helpful. I have two sets of pills to take – one to “turn off” my brain at night as well as something instant for when major panic attacks happen. (You’ve mentioned medication – so was a little curious on what you use it for. – You don’t have to give the name at all.)

    One other thing that I’ve been doing is accepting that this is who I am and not to judge myself for my short comings. I’ve immersed myself with people who understand what anxiety is or who are better at accepting it than others.

    I wish you well this week. If you want to chat more – I’m always on Twitter for easy chitchat.

    You are right – it can get bad some times and even worse other times – but it’s not the end. (I love that. No matter what anxiety doesn’t define who you are as a person.)

    Now that I’ve just found your blog I’m totally going to be going through it. Whee! Hope you have a good rest of the week.

    • Meditating helps me too, but not when I’m panicking – it’s then when I don’t know what to do…
      I’ll be sure documenting everything more. Thanks for your kind words, xo

  • It’s really awesome and brave that you’re able to share this with others and help other people too through your story. 🙂

    I have a little bit of social anxiety, and I’ve found that the best way to deal with it is to push myself out of my comfort zone. Not every day, but just often enough that it helps me to grow as a person.

    Anxiety isn’t just something that goes away overnight. And I totally agree that having people say “Deal with it” or “Just get over it” is NOT helpful. Unless you’ve experienced something similar, you don’t know exactly how to help another person going through that situation. It’s best just to offer support and encouragement where you can and not judge too harshly.

    Bria | Tendril Wild

    • It’s so good that you start working on your anxiety before it gets worse, so good job! I have severe travel anxiety, so going away, pushing myself into those situations aren’t helpful…

      I love the way you think. The best you can offer to someone who suffers from anxiety is support.

  • Leslie Nichole

    I have really bad anxiety too. This is partly why i quit my full time job, it was too stressful and my anxiety was through the roof. People without anxiety just don’t understand the struggle. Some days you just don’t want to get out of bed. Keep your head up!

    • I hope you will get better soon, xo